Well, you did it. You took the advice you were given about online dating and you finally got to the point where you are about to meet he possible love of your life-for the very first time in person. I bet you are nervous, aren’t you? Of course you are! It’s the first real date, right? I can’t think of anyone who wouldn’t be nervous on their first date. There are so many different things to think about. Where are you going to go, what will you wear and so on. But the first thing usually on everyone’s mind when it comes to the very first face to face date is-Yup, you guessed it! What on Earth are you going to talk about? And not only that, what if you run out of things to talk about? What if you clam up and just go blank? Well, hopefully, considering you have gotten this far on advice, you will take my advice too. Here are a couple of sure fire ways to keep talking while on the first date. Heed this advice, and you will keep taking and I promise it won’t be awkward for you-or your date- at all.
Drinks All Around
The first thing should really not come as a surprise. This technique has been around for centuries. Governments have banned it in the past and kids try to get their hands on it at any cost sometimes. What could this secret be? Alcohol. That’s right, just plain old alcohol. You see, alcohol has a way of making people loosen up a bit. If you and your date are going out to dinner, and because it is the first date, you probably are-then the first thing you need to do is order a glass of wine. Alcohol starts to work its magic right after the first sip, as it is absorbed through the lining of your gums and the tongue. This is why governments have tries to ban it, because being this potent, one can et drunk real easy and not even know it, which is also why you need to be careful with it as well. The plan here is to get the conversation flowing, not get their two of you drunk so you can make a fool out of yourself. Just drink responsibly, and this will work its magic all by itself.
The other sure file ay to keep the conversation going is real simple. Ask questions of your date. A direct question necessitates a response, otherwise it would be considered rude. And unless your date doesn’t feel like talking too much this shouldn’t be a problem for her. And if it is a problem and she feels like you want to know too much, maybe you should consider not dating her. How are you supposed to get to now someone if they don’t want to answer a few questions about themselves? On the other hand, don’t try to give the third degree, either. Going overboard with your questioning is a distinct possibility, and it could be n automatic deal breaker. There is a fine lien between wanting to know and wanting to know too much too soon. When it comes to finding that invisible line, the trick is to ask yourself, silently, of course, if you would want to answer that question if it were asked of you. If you think the answer would be you wouldn’t want to answer, then most likely you are crossing the line and shouldn’t be asking the particular question. Find a line of questions that are safe. Some that questions that even you wouldn’t mind answering were the same ones asked of you. Questions such as where your date works and what they do for a living, what kind of hobbies they have and what they like to do are always on the top of the list. Along with what favorite music they might have and a few others, they are all safe to keep things going for quite awhile.
Ask Away-Just Not About This…
Some questions to stay away from, no matter if your date started it are political questions. Do not ever initiate or end a conversation based around a political theme, as these days, political lines are drawn so exacting; it can cause major break ups in marriages, let alone a first date. Another thing never to talk about is the ex factor. Never ever under any circumstances do you ever talk about your, or ask about their, ex, period end of story. It causes way too much friction, as if you don’t trust them. Also, asking questions such as the ones about the ex can open old wounds you didn’t even know existed. That is something that should never happen on a first date. In fact the ex factor should not be discussed at all. That is unless it would do someone more good than harm, but I can’t even begin to imagine where that situation might apply.
So, if you stick to these basic items, the conversations will be almost non-stop. The only reason why it will stop is to eat and even then it will be difficult. Keep in mind too that communication is the key to a great relationship and if you run out of things to talk about now, your relationship will just wind up in the gutter later. Make the effort to keep things light and casual, never embark on a deep and heavy conversation until you are well established within the relationship. Doing so too early can be cause for concern, or look like you are trying too hard. Simplicity is the key here and if you stick to the plan you will not go wrong.