Nice guys finish last........
1493 days ago
1921 days ago
1921 days ago
Body Type: A few extra pounds
Children: Yes - living with me
Smoking: Occaisional smoker
Sexual Orientation: Straight
Is it possible to find someone who compliments you like no one else can? Not like telling you your cute or that you did a good job at something, but the one person who makes you a better person just by being around them. It doesn't seem like it is does it?
Anyways, on to the reason we're all here. To meet someone. Some people are here for sex. Others are here for love and others to meet new friends. A LOT of people are here for one thing while they tell you another. This leaves us all, to check out these profiles and wonder. Well I'm going to make it simple and eliminate the wonder. I'm here for all three of those things. Lol whats that got you thinking? Let me break it down. Your here cause your a girl looking for a guy to possibly meet and maybe at some point start a relationship with. I'm here cause I'm a guy looking for that girl. You'll always start as friends, or at least you should. Its a good basis. Love and sex? Well they tend to follow in some order. If all works out that is. And in some cases, even when things don't work out.
See, I'd like something that starts simple. Something that isn't rushed or that doesn't feel pressured. You'd imagine that the person you plan on spending the rest of your life with would be your best friend right? So where does that start things off at? As friends! Its the fun phase where you get to learn things about each other. Sometimes its an awkward phase where you have everything to talk about and you can't think of anything to say. You exchange numbers and pictures, you text and talk, and you decide to meet for the first time and where, and what to do. All the while pondering whether or not things may possibly go somewhere or if this person is strictly friends material. There's a lot going in this phase.
Then it goes somewhere... and where is completely up to the two people and which direction they lead it in. Sex, 9 times out of 10, comes into play at this point. Lol for some people its the reason they get to this point. Thats not always a good idea though. It tends to back fire. Connection, chemistry, things in common, and just a general liking for each other should be the reason you get here. Yes sex is a part of all those things but its not a good door opener. I like sex just as much as the next guy but I've come to understand its underlying ability to create a connection that really isn't there.
Now love?! This ones the real dealmaker. As complicated and abused as sex and everything else is, love is by far the worst. Its tossed around by people like a hackey sack at a hippie convention. Ugh, I hate hippies lol. Anyway, people seem to just use it and or say it like its nothing. Its not a phrase or concept thats valued like it used to be. This bothers me. I've said it first and I've had others say it to me first. Sometimes its been fairly quick and other times its been a bit. Either way, when you say it you better mean it. This isn't high school anymore.
Now I have yet to mention things like total honesty, good communication, loyalty, trust which stems from these three, and an ability to make to some sacrifices or compromises for each other. basically not being selfish. These are obvious, and should be to anyone that has any idea of what a good, healthy, long lasting relationship should be like. But, here are some things that are important to me. A sense of humor. If you can't joke about things or have a... conservative or reserved sense of humor, you and me aren't going to make it too awfully far. I know there's a time and a place for certain jokes and that being serious is just as important to a relationship but DAM! Loosen up and laugh. Smile and play. It keeps us young and sane for that matter lol. PDA... if you have a problem showing affection to someone you care about whereever you may be then nay nay I say to thee. Don't write me! If I like someone I'm not going to hide it. I'm not talking about shooting a porn film in the middle of the grocery store lol but G-rated stuff.... ehh maybe some PG-13 Hahahaha!!!! ;-)
Looks looks looks!! As dominant as personality may be, looks are still important to a certain extent. Its pretty much the first thing you notice. I wanted to be a super model when I was growing up but it turns out I'm not that good looking lol. Anyway, there has to be some physical attraction.
Also, I have a son. He is 2 years old. I have him 3-4 days a week. He has been a blessing in my life and he will always come first. I'm not looking for a mother for him but someone for myself. Regardless though, I have to keep him in mind. Anyone I may choose to be serious with will have to be a part of his life too and thats not going to happen unless I feel someone is right for him. This is probabaly the biggest and most important thing I look for when meeting someone.
So, if you are still with me here and you think you might want to talk then message me. I look forward to hearing from you :-)
What I'm Looking For
Someone... I'm not sure who... AND, I'm not sure if she is on this site. I'm just hoping to find her or that she finds me. <3